In our family, we have an unwritten rule: no phones during dinner. Whether it's work-related or something urgent, dinner time is our time to talk. This simple rule allows us to set aside busy distractions and focus on each other, helping us stay connected and strengthening our bond. Every dinner conversation not only helps us understand each other better, but it also builds a deeper emotional connection.
So, what should parents talk about with their kids during dinner? Here are some topic ideas to help parents make the most of this special time with their children:
1. Talk About Their Day: Start with "How Was Your Day?"
Instead of asking "What did you learn in school today?" try starting with something more open like:
- "Did anything fun or exciting happen today?"
- "Was there anything that made you feel upset today?"
These questions can help your child open up and share their real emotions and experiences, making the conversation feel less like an interrogation and more like a meaningful exchange.
Tip: If your child doesn’t feel like talking, don’t press them. Share something fun from your own day to keep the conversation light and engaging.
2. Talk About Future Plans: Get Them Excited
Dinner is also a great time to talk about upcoming events. Try asking:
- "Is there anything you're looking forward to tomorrow?"
- "How about we plan a family outing this weekend?"
Talking about future activities not only gives your child something to look forward to but also helps them feel involved in planning family time.
3. Talk About Hobbies and Interests: Show Interest in Their World
Your child’s interests might be different from yours, but that doesn’t mean they’re less important. For example, if they love a certain video game or TV show, ask about it:
- "What’s your favorite part of that game you’re playing?"
- "What happened in the latest episode of that show you like?"
Asking about their hobbies makes them feel valued and understood, and it helps foster a closer relationship.
4. Talk About Family Memories: Build a Sense of Belonging
Sharing stories about family experiences, such as:
- "Do you remember when we went to the beach last summer?"
- "What was your favorite meal we had for Thanksgiving?"
These conversations help children connect with their family’s history and build a sense of belonging, while also reinforcing family traditions.
Research shows that children who frequently hear family stories have a stronger sense of identity and security (Duke et al., 2008).
5. Talk About Little Facts and Fun Knowledge: Make It Educational
Dinner conversations don’t have to be all about feelings; you can also sneak in some learning. Try asking questions like:
- "Did you know carrots are really good for your eyes?"
- "Why do you think rice gives us so much energy?"
These little learning moments can spark curiosity and teach your child fun facts they can share with others.
6. Talk About Emotions: Help Them Develop Emotional Skills
Dinner is a great time to help your child recognize and express their emotions. Ask questions like:
- "Did anything make you feel angry today? What happened?"
- "How do you calm yourself down when you’re upset?"
Talking about emotions in a relaxed setting helps children develop emotional intelligence, which is key to handling stress and building social skills (Denham, 2007).
7. Avoid High-Pressure Topics: Keep It Relaxed
While some conversations are important, dinner time is not the best time for certain topics. Avoid:
- Criticizing their behavior or performance
- Talking too much about school pressure or homework
- Giving long lectures
Dinner should be a stress-free zone, where everyone can enjoy each other’s company and feel supported.
8. Create a Special "Family Dinner Tradition"
In addition to topics, creating a special routine can make dinner time even more meaningful. Here are some ideas:
- Take turns sharing "the best part of your day"
- Hold a “family share time” once a week
- Write down one thing you're thankful for and share it after dinner
These simple activities help create positive associations with family meals and make everyone feel more connected.
Key Takeaways: Dinner Time is a Time to Connect, Not Just Eat
Dinner is more than just a time to eat; it’s a time to build stronger relationships. By making the most of this time to talk, you help your child feel understood, valued, and supported.
Every dinner conversation can be an opportunity to build a happier and healthier family dynamic. So, put away the phones, share stories, and enjoy each other’s company!
