Every summer, I like to sit down with my child and make a simple summer plan together. We decide on things like when to wake up, when to study, when to play, and what books to read. We also talk about when we might go to summer camp, visit family, or join community events. Making a plan helps turn the break into something exciting and full of energy.
Still, I often hear parents say the same thing each summer: At first, everyone is excited — no more early mornings, no homework stress, just sunshine and freedom. But after a few weeks, their child starts to seem lazy, moody, or disconnected. Sleep schedules go off track, screens take over, and they rarely go outside.
Summer is a great time for kids to relax and recharge, but without some structure and emotional support, it can also lead to boredom, loneliness, or too much screen time. So how can we help our children enjoy a meaningful and mentally healthy summer?
Why Can Summer Be Emotionally Challenging for Kids?
Many parents think of summer as a happy, carefree time. But mental health experts warn that without routines, social interaction, or engaging activities, kids can start to feel bored or isolated — which can lead to emotional ups and downs.
According to the Child Mind Institute, children who struggle with anxiety or mood disorders often show more symptoms during long breaks like summer, especially when there’s less structure or support around them.
Common issues include:
- Lack of daily routine and rhythm
- Irregular sleep and poor rest
- Less face-to-face social time
- Overuse of screens
- Mood swings or withdrawn behavior
How Can Parents Support Their Child’s Mental Wellbeing in Summer?
1. Keep a Soft, Predictable Routine
Kids don’t need every hour planned out, but having a basic daily rhythm helps them feel secure. The CDC recommends 9–12 hours of sleep for children ages 6–12, even during school breaks.
Try scheduling like this:
- Wake up by 8:30 AM
- Read or study for 1 hour daily
- Play or do something outdoors before using screens
- Sleep by 9:30 PM
2. Create Opportunities for Social Time
Emotional health grows through strong relationships. Even if your child isn’t going to a summer camp, try to plan regular social time — like visiting friends, going on family outings, or organizing small group activities in the neighborhood.
Tip: Invite a friend to the park each week, do a baking activity together, or check out events at your local community center.
3. Balance Screen Time with Real-Life Fun
Too much screen time can affect mood, sleep, and behavior. The American Academy of Pediatrics suggests co-viewing and setting clear screen time rules based on age.
Tip: Create "screen-free hours" — for example, no screens from 4 PM to 6 PM — and fill that time with puzzles, crafts, or a walk outside.
4. Talk About Emotions Regularly
Helping kids express their feelings builds emotional strength. Try asking open-ended questions like, “What made you happy today?” or “Was there anything that bothered you?” Don’t rush to judge — just listen and support.
Watch for signs like:
- Big changes in appetite or sleep
- Frequent irritability or emotional outbursts
- Avoiding social time or staying alone for hours
- Losing interest in favorite activities
5. Set a Small Summer Goal
A fun project or personal goal can give kids purpose and pride. It could be learning to ride a bike, growing a plant, making a video, or building a scrapbook.
Tip: Make a simple goal checklist and track progress together. A little summer journal can make it even more fun.
When to Seek Professional Support
If your child seems anxious, down, or overwhelmed for more than two weeks, it’s a good idea to talk to a mental health professional. Summer can actually be the best time to start therapy since there’s less school stress and more flexibility.
Final Thoughts
Summer should be a time for kids to relax and recharge, but they still need emotional support, a gentle routine, and human connection. You don’t need to plan every moment — just pay attention, stay present, and guide with love. With your support, your child can build confidence and emotional resilience that lasts long after summer ends.
