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Five Tips for Communicating with Children

Asking questions is crucial for fostering wisdom. Numerous studies indicate that asking questions is the best way for us to think and learn effectively. Good questions can stimulate children's thinking, guide them to think deeply, enhance their learning interest and memory. Additionally, asking questions can help parents understand their children's emotions and thoughts.

However, many parents tend to skip the communication process when their children seek help, preferring to use their own experience to give direct answers. While this may solve the immediate problem, it does little to help children develop their ability to judge, explore, think, and take responsibility.

Here are five methods that can help parents communicate effectively with their children:

  • Ask Thought-Provoking Questions: Good questions can stimulate children's thinking and interest in learning.

For example, asking "What solutions do you think there are for this problem?" can guide them to think and explore.

  • Practice Reflective Listening: By repeating what the child says and expressing understanding, parents can better respond to their children's emotions and needs.

For instance, when a child says, "I don't like school," responding with "I know you find school difficult, let's find a solution together" can be helpful.

  • Listen Effectively: Actively participate in the conversation, give timely feedback, and show genuine interest.

For example, during the child's talk, respond appropriately with "I understand" or "Go on."

  • Use Emotional Vocabulary: Express concern with warm language instead of blame.

For instance, saying "You worked hard, but you can do even better" is more motivating than saying "You are too lazy."

  • Show Concern Through Language: Express concern for the issue rather than blame.

For example, "I see your homework isn't finished yet, is there a problem?" is more effective than direct blame.

By using these communication techniques, parents can help their children grow better and strengthen family cohesion and warmth.